Rising Above the Book-Banning Debate:

The 100 Best Children’s Books of All Time

Well-managed intellectual propaganda begins with the curation of children’s books. Educators understand that ideas formed in childhood, and especially ideas about how the world is and how it should be, tend to last forever, even if they are subjugated or sublimated by later education and experience.

So, when the BBC recently announced that they had polled 177 experts from 56 countries to find “the 100 greatest children’s books ever,” I was curious to see what they had been up to. (After all, I have five grandkids that are or will be learning to read.)

Introducing the project, the BBC said the following:

“Recently… there’s been the furor over the rewriting of Roald Dahl’s novels for modern sensibilities – and more generally, the widespread concern over the growing movement in the US towards banning children’s books, including many dealing with racial and LGBTQ+ themes. All in all, then, it felt like the right time to do our bit to both give children’s literature its due and consider what has made and continues to make great children’s writing. And so, in order to do that, we have decided to ask many experts a very simple question: What is the greatest children’s book of all time?”

I looked at the list they came up with, and was pleased to see that 80% of the books were written before 1950 and none of them seemed to have a particularly political agenda. Click here to see the list.

A hundred children’s books is probably too many to aim for in your home library – in most home libraries. But 20 is a good starting number. So, to help you cull the list, here – also from the BBC – are short summaries of their top 20.

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Why the Teachers Union Hates Poetry Recitals

There were two things my siblings and I were required to do on Sunday mornings. Go to church and recite a poem. The former was a rule adhered to by all the kids on my block. The poetry? My friends thought it was a form of child abuse, before the term was even invented.

I had mixed feelings about it. I did not enjoy the memorization, but I did enjoy my mother’s approval when it was done. I can still recite many of those poems today.

Georgia and Arkansas have recently introduced new educational standards that include memorizing and then reciting poems. Sounds like a good thing, right? But guess who is objecting?

You got it. English teachers are criticizing the measure as being “mechanical and prescriptive.” It’s “rote learning,” they say, which doesn’t help children learn how to think “creatively” and “critically. “

This idea of teaching kids how to think rather than what to think is hardly new. It was part of my curriculum when I was in high school almost 60 years ago. And there is some sense to it, to be sure. But it’s incorrect to assume that learning how to memorize and recite long passages of poetry doesn’t do anything to improve the brain.

For my siblings and me, the Sunday morning mandate was immensely valuable in many ways. At the simplest level, it taught us how to memorize text – which is a skill that can be extremely gratifying and even useful as an adult. It also imparted in us a respect and admiration for poetry in particular and literature in general that has made our lives much richer than they would be if our primary form of personal entertainment was watching baseball or playing Diablo III.

The problem is that so many teachers today have no idea of what creative and critical thinking is. The proof of that is what is going on at so many high schools (and even grammar schools) around the country. In spreading the gospel of Critical Race Theory and Gender Ideology, America’s teachers are engaged in a pandemic of educational indoctrination that includes “facts” that are not factual and analytical theory that is not in the least bit analytical. And to make matters worse, they are failing students that have the nerve to think on their own.

Here’s what happened to one student that did some independent thinking.

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Memories of Maiduguri

“Never shall I forget his deep-throated laughter as he told me that ‘the rascals’ would kill him.” – Taki 

DZ wanted to travel to Maiduguri in Nigeria, where his father was a visiting scholar at the university. I agreed to go with him, knowing nothing about Maiduguri and very little about Nigeria, except that it was an English-speaking country, not a Francophone country like Chad, where we were stationed as Peace Corps volunteers.

The first leg of the journey was by bush taxi – a smallish van with benches bolted on either side of the cabin. The big advantage of bush taxis was the price. Fares were less than a dollar each, which made them the usual choice for Chadians and Peace Corps volunteers.

To eke out a profit, bush taxis did not operate by a schedule, but idled at the station for as long as it took to fill the cabin.

Chadian-full was different from Fort Lauderdale-full, or even New York City-full. Bush-taxi-full was 20 humans, each with boxes and bags, plus at least a dozen chickens and one or two goats. And that was just the contents of the cabin. Tied to the roof rack, there was likely to be a six-foot-high mountain of bed frames and firewood and farm tools and motors and bags of grain… and who knows what else!

DZ and I had woken up at the crack of dawn and were at the station by about 6:00 a.m. By 8:00, the van was full. The driver put the transmission into gear, and the van began coughing, sputtering, and finally hobbling and clanking down the dirt road.

Moments later, we heard shouting outside in some tribal language. The driver stopped the van, and his assistant went to the back and opened the door. There was an elderly couple that wanted to get in. The assistant yelled at us all in yet another language, in response to which our fellow passengers began shuffling themselves around in an effort to make room for the additional passengers. But even after another battery of verbal abuse from the assistant, there was, at best, only six inches of bench space available to accommodate them.

The assistant shook his head in disappointment and yelled something to the driver, who then put the transmission back in gear. “Finally,” I thought to myself. “We are on our way.”

The driver floored the gas pedal and the van bolted forward. A second later, he slammed on the brakes, hurling us violently backward and crushed up against one another, but freeing up the bench space the assistant needed. He shoved the old couple on board and shut the door behind them.

That was “Part I of Our Adventure to Maiduguri.” The rest of the trip was more exciting and even stranger, which I will save that for another time. I’m telling you this now because I happen to have read this morning a reminiscence from one of my favorite reminiscers, Theodore Dalrymple (of Taki’s Magazine), whom I’ve recommended to you before.

Dalrymple’s essay is about some of his memories of this very same city of Maiduguri in the early 1980s, just a few years after DZ and I traveled there.

Africa is a continent unlike any other. Its landscapes, varied as they are, do not remind me of anyplace else I’ve ever been. That’s also true of its peoples and their cultures. They are not like any others in the world. And it (sub-Saharan Africa, that is) has changed very little since I was first there 40 years ago. It exists in its own time capsule. It still feels undiscovered to me.

Chad was not an easy place to live in – especially for a 25-year-old American who had never traveled overseas. It was not just different. Everything, from brushing your teeth to giving a lecture at the local university, felt like it had to be reinvented from square one. I managed well enough, but many others didn’t. A fair percentage of the Peace Corps volunteers that went to Chad while I was there returned to the States before their tour was up.

And I’ll bet that, apart from a handful of large, relatively wealthy cities like Marrakesh, Algiers, and Cairo in the north or Johannesburg and Cape Town in the south, that strangeness and difficulty is still true for 90% of sub-Saharan Africa today.

Notwithstanding the uncomfortable differences, there are some things I remember about Africa that made the experience of living there worthwhile. One of those things was a depth of intimacy among male friends that did not exist in the States. Another thing that impressed me deeply, which Dalrymple writes about in the linked-to essay below, was the capacity of Africans to joke about the vicissitudes of life… punctuated by their huge, bellowing, and contagious laughter.

Click here to enjoy Dalrymple doing his thing!

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Father’s Day, Mother’s Day: What Does It Mean Anymore?

This weekend was Father’s Day. The Ford-Fitzgerald clan has nine fathers – five in my generation and four in the following one, of which three, along with spouses and offspring, were together at the Swamp House on Sunday.

Father’s Day was never a big deal for us. Is it for anyone? Someone told me that they saw a list of American holidays ordered by some measure of importance and Father’s Day was number 40, behind Arbor Day. (What is Arbor Day?)

If it weren’t for my mother, Father’s Day would have gone unnoticed in my childhood home. The day before Father’s Day, she had us make cards for him. I was considered a good scribbler back then, and I took my reputation to heart. My cards were always little masterpieces – part surrealist and part COBRA. I’d present the card to him with great expectations. He’d pick his head up from the book he was reading, pat me on the head, and then return to his studies.

As for me, in my adulthood, I don’t have anything to report in terms of Father’s Day memories. Numbers One and Two Sons face-timed me from California. And Number Three Son was with us, along with his family, at a brunch on the Avenue.

When our boys were toddlers and young children, they got most of what they needed – love and constant correction – from their mother. I played the Ozzie Nelson role, going to work early and coming home just before dinner. During the week, I saw them briefly. Maybe twice a day. Time with father was reserved for weekends.

That ratio of maternal/paternal time and attention in those early years seemed to have worked well. But when the boys moved into their teenage years, my duties became more regular and more serious. I had to play, as well as I could, the initiating father in all things manly. Like not whining and being brave and treating smaller children gently.

When they got into their gangly, testosterone-fueled years, they began testing the authority of their mother. That’s when I felt the need to step in and give them the “do-that-again-and-you’ll-get-the-back-of-me-hand.” (I never had to give them the back of my hand. Notwithstanding their boyish instincts, they were basically good and loving kids. But they could never be sure if my threats were serious.)

I’m happy to report that all three of our boys grew up as well as we could have hoped. By that, I mean they have become financially and emotionally independent adults that speak courteously to strangers, are generous with their time and money, and show kindness when it is called for.

I don’t dispute that K earned and deserves 80% of the credit for their successful maturation. But I claim 20% for myself as a father that was there when he was really needed.

And fathers are needed. Countless studies show that children that grow up without fathers are severely disadvantaged in terms of how they perform in life. They end up quitting school earlier, having children of their own younger, earning less money, committing more crimes, having a higher incidence of suicide, and dying earlier.

But that may not be enough. Last Thursday, I woke up listening to a PBS radio special about Father’s Day. PBS, which, as you know, is supported by taxes and listener contributions, decided to add a fun twist to this special by making the segment an interview with a transgender father.

Kayden Coleman is the transgender father of two daughters. His PBS interview was about what it was like fathering two daughters as a transgendered man that grew up as a biological female. It turns out that it is great. As he explained to the host, transgender fathers are actually better at fathering than cis-gender fathers because they understand what it is like to menstruate.

Alas.

But I shouldn’t complain. Cis-gendered women have it much worse. They are rapidly being bettered by transgendered women in just about every form of human competition, including sports and martial arts and beauty pageants and chess.

It’s no wonder that in 2015 the undisputed Woman of the Year was Caitlyn Jenner, who was celebrated on at least a dozen magazine and newspaper front pages. Or that last October, President Biden invited Dylan Mulvaney to the White House to celebrate her as one of America’s most popular female social media stars.

Never mind.

Back to Delray Beach and the Ford-Fitzgerald homestead…

As long as I can remember, there’s been a family debate about a point of Mother’s Day and Father’s Day decorum. The issue: Who is supposed to plan the celebration and buy the gift? The spouses or the children? We decided it was the responsibility of the children.

In our early years of marriage, K and I didn’t celebrate our days of recognition because we agreed that it was each of our responsibilities on Father’s Day and Mother’s Day to celebrate our own parents’ days, not each other’s.

Now that our kids are grown, we feel it’s up to them to celebrate our days. We don’t expect much. But we expect at least a phone call. So, that’s family policy. We eschew responsibility for the celebration. It’s up to the kids. Although I’m pretty sure that K reminds them. And so do I.

I think that’s fair. But still, just to be safe, I get K flowers.

 

Speaking of Fathers Having Babies…

Check out these two short clips.

The first comes from Monty Python’s Life of Brian, which I saw again last week. It had me screaming. One of the best moments targeted this issue of gender roles for parents. I’m talking about the scene where Stan announces that he wants to have babies. (In 1979, of course, when Life of Brian came out, the idea that men could have babies was universally considered ridiculous.)

Click here.

And this, more or less, is the same skit. But this one was produced more recently. It’s a bit from South Park. Click here.

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Cormac McCarthy, RIP

Cormac McCarthy is gone. Sad. I didn’t know him personally. I never even heard him speak Unlike most bestselling authors, McCarthy didn’t do book signings or media interviews to promote his books. He was a very solitary person.

But he was a very good writer. He told emotionally compelling stories. He created characters that were unforgettable. His range was both vertical and horizontal. His dialogue was on a par with Twain’s. And in terms of American prose style, he was probably the most important novelist since Hemingway.

I remember the first time I read his writing. It was the opening pages of All the Pretty Horses.

Here it is:

“The candleflame and the image of the candleflame caught in the pierglass twisted and righted when he entered the hall and again when he shut the door. He took off his hat and came slowly forward. The floorboards creaked. Under his boots. In his black suit he stood in the dark glass where the lilies leaned so palely from their waisted cutglass vase. Along the cold hallway behind him hung the portraits of forebearers only dimly down to him all framed in glass and dimly lit above the narrow wainscotting. He looked down at the guttered candlestub. He pressed his thumbprint in the warm wax pooled on the oak veneer. Lastly he looked at the face so caved and drawn among the folds of funeral cloth, the yellowed mustache, the eyelids paper thin. That was not sleeping. That was not sleeping.”

As you can see, McCarthy was a writer’s writer. Like Melville and Faulkner, two of the three novelists he admitted to admiring (the third was Dostoevsky), he crafted poetic sentences expressing complex and subtle ideas with beauty and grace. He was also, like Dostoevsky, a philosophical writer willing to write about difficult truths.

He was famously private. He kept to himself, rarely left his home, and turned down 99 interview requests for every one he granted. In that way – and now that I think of it, in several ways – he was the opposite of Hemingway, who was immensely social and sought out attention, almost any sort of attention, wherever he went.

McCarthy, or Cormac, as we Mules called him, was one of our favorite authors. (We permit ourselves to have first-name relationships with writers we believe would like to be part of our club.) We probably did four or five of his books, which is more than any other novelist, including Hemingway.

The fact is, Cormac McCarthy was the kind of writer that, if you were a serious reader or a committed writer, could not be ignored. We found, in the books we reviewed, bits and pieces here and there that we were able to criticize. But the criticisms were mostly nitpicking. And they were very few. It was much more common for us to read his sentences aloud and/or listen to them in awe.

Anyway, he’s gone now. And one thing that means is that he will have now less control over his celebrity than he did when he was living. He won’t be giving interviews, but neither will he be able to prevent people from writing about him based on anecdotal or even imagined information. My prediction is that, like Hemingway, McCarthy will not fade from recognition, notwithstanding his penchant for anonymity. It would not surprise me if, one day, he became as famous as Hemingway. And, ironically (which he would enjoy), he would have accomplished that considerable achievement by having lived a life as small and private as Hemingway’s was big and public.

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Pickleball. Where Did It Come From? How Long Will It Stay

The first time I saw a pickleball court was about five or six years ago. Half the size of a tennis court, it was clearly invented for older people. And then, when I saw the game being played, with the plastic ball and fiberglass-covered paddle and the distinctive “pwock” each time the paddle made contact, I thought, “This will never last.”

But it did. Last year, nine million Americans were playing pickleball regularly. That makes the sport almost as popular as running! In fact, the last time I visited Rancho Santana, they were building two pickleball courts, right next to our two tennis courts. Who woulda thunk?

Whatever pleasure these millions of people are finding in playing pickleball, there is a growing number that want to see it gone. Or if not gone, reengineered. The problem is that pwocking sound. It’s louder than the sound from the collision of a tennis racket and ball. It can produce a decibel level of +/- 70 dBA at 100 feet from the court. (Compared to tennis at 40 dBA.)

And that’s upset a lot of people… particularly those that live in one of the 10,000 communities that have pickleball courts.

Read this to find out what one engineer is doing about that, and how his work has created another industry.

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We were traveling this last week…

Four days in LA visiting the grandkids, and three days in Richmond getting to know a city we’ve never been to. Here are some impressions:

Glendale, LA 

When in LA, K and I often stay at the Glenmark Hotel in Glendale. It’s about equidistant between the homes of Number One and Number Two sons.

The Glenmark is a clean but otherwise unremarkable hotel, except for the rooftop garden, which has a great view and allows smoking – cigarettes, cigars, and hookahs. The hookahs are the most common smoking device here, perhaps because the Glenmark is smack dab in the middle of Little Armenia, one of the largest Armenian communities outside of Armenia.

When we first stayed here, I knew nothing about Glendale and almost nothing about Armenians, except that they were nearly exterminated during World War I. (Turkey was trying to turn Armenia into an Islamic state by murdering more than a million Armenians.)

Every time I’ve been here since, I’ve done a bit more reading about Armenia’s history and culture. I’ve learned that it is a smallish country (about 3 million people) that lies in the Caucasus Mountains on the Asian side of the border between Asia and Europe. It has a long history, dating back more than 2,000 years, and was one of the earliest Christian civilizations.

Armenia was a republic of the Soviet Union until 1991, when the Soviet Union broke up and Armenia achieved its independence. Since then, from what I’ve read, Armenia has tried to maintain good political and trade relations with both Russia and the United States. That’s never been easy, and it’s especially difficult now because of the war.

In addition to my reading, whenever I have a chance, I have conversations with the locals in Little Armenia and try to understand what they think of their history and culture and how it is for them to live abroad in communities like this one.

Those conversations have left me with a very positive impression of Armenians – or at least Armenians living in LA. Those I’ve spoken to don’t complain about their terrible history. They’re much more likely to talk about how happy they are to be in the US and their optimism for the future.

They are generally patriotic to America, but also very much attached to their fatherland. They don’t see a contradiction in that. (And neither do I.)

They are initially reserved when interacting with strangers, but become friendly quickly when they are spoken to with courtesy and respect. From what I can see, they have the warmth of the Italians, the pride of the Spanish, and the temperament of the Greeks. They look a lot like the Greeks, too – handsome, with strong facial features, olive skin, dark brown eyes, and black hair.

Altogether, they seem like admirable people. They have built a community in Glendale that is safe, family-oriented, welcoming, economically bourgeoning, and culturally rich. They seem to have blended into an LA version of American culture, without giving up their own.

Richmond, VA 

Instead of flying directly back to Delray Beach, K and I thought we should spend a few days somewhere else – somewhere we’ve never been. From LA, there were a half-dozen cities that could be reached reasonably by plane. Richmond was the one we chose.

Richmond is historically important. It was the last city to fall to the Union Army in the Civil War. And it has embraced its history, the good and bad, with what is, in this time, a refreshing mix of candor, compassion, and pride.

Richmond reminds me of Baltimore in that it is a once-rich city that has fallen into bad economic times. Walking down Broad Street was like walking down some stretches of Charles Street in Baltimore, but worse. At least half of the storefronts are boarded up. And most of the other half are occupied by government offices and businesses that look dreary and near broke. It’s sad.

And yet, there a fair number of good and enjoyable things to see and do in Richmond. These were our favorites:

* Hollywood Cemetery 

Thousands of fun-to-read tombstones dating back hundreds of years on 140 acres of rolling green hills, populated with giant magnolias, white oaks, and myrtle overlooking the James River. The most beautiful cemetery I’ve ever seen.

* Virginia Museum of Fine Art (VMFA) 

 K and I were surprised by the size of the building and the quality of the several collections that comprise the museum’s permanent collection. This is not a regional museum. It doesn’t offer the breadth or the depth of the Met or the Louvre. But it has a half-dozen collections that are as good as any.

* Civil War Museum 

Lots of interesting facts and relics from our country’s most deadly war. But the highlight for us was the film you can see upon entering the museum. It made me want to watch Shenandoah, which I’d never seen before.

* Louis Ginter Botanical Gardens 

 50 acres with over a dozen themed gardens, including a Rose Garden, Children’s Garden, Fountain Garden, Asian Garden, Victorian Garden, Woodland Garden, Healing Garden, Perennial Garden, Edible Display Garden, Community Kitchen Garden, as well as a conservatory, library, and café.

 But what I most enjoyed about Richmond, and I don’t think I’m making this up, is how warm and courteous everyone seems to be. Another thing I couldn’t help but notice: Racial relations seem to be better, or at least more cordial, than they are in other cities I know. There is definitely more casual smiling and eye-to-eye contact.

Obviously, I might be deluding myself. Is there something special about Richmond? Is it a Southern thing? If you know Richmond, let me know..

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Rules: Who Needs Them?

A fair amount of what interests me these days has to do with the experience of aging. So today, I wanted to write about how my thinking about liberty and bureaucracy has changed over the years.

In getting my thoughts together, this quotation, often incorrectly attributed to Winston Churchill, popped into my mind:

“If you’re not a liberal when you’re 25, you have no heart. If you’re not a conservative by the time you’re 35, you have no brain.”

And then, of course, that sentimental biblical phrase (Corinthians 13:11) came to mind:

“When I was a child, I spoke like a child, I thought like a child, I reasoned like a child. When I became a man, I gave up childish ways.”

Never mind.

When my partners and I began developing Rancho Santana 25 years ago, we imagined we were creating a sort of Libertarian Eden, a retreat from the encroaching big-government bureaucracy and petty tyranny of North America. Thus, when it came to creating rules for our fledgling community, our stance was: “The fewer the better.”

That policy worked for a while. We allowed lot owners to do whatever they wanted to do with their lots. They could regrade them, deforest them, drill wells in them, erect cell towers and windmills on them. Anything.

This worked until it didn’t. We discovered that many of our Libertarian-minded settlers didn’t always appreciate the amount of freedom the community afforded. A windmill can be an admirable idea. But when it’s blocking your neighbor’s view of the ocean, and sounding like a jet plane taking off, it becomes an invasion of and an assault on his liberty.

So, complaint by complaint, and despite our reservations, we were forced to establish more and more regulations and restrictions. I was reminded me of this when, at a recent meeting of the resort’s board, we found ourselves dealing with yet another complaint. In this case, it had to do with a new resident that had bought a house that had some pest problems. “You guys should have building codes that have the same standards as we have back in California,” he said.

“Oh, boy,” I thought. “This will never stop until we’ve made our haven as bureaucratic as any and all of the towns and cities we fled from in the States.”

And we are not the only example of this. A friend of ours, a bestselling author, developed his own version of our residential community in Argentina about ten years after we started Rancho Santana. When it comes to Libertarianism, he’s about as hardcore as it gets. And yet, the last time I visited his resort, their book of homeowner association bylaws looked to be even thicker than ours!

What’s the point?

The point: It’s easy to be a Libertarian or a Marxist or an anarchist when you are young and unburdened with responsibility. But as you grow older and take on the responsibilities of adulthood, those glittering ideologies become impossible to keep.

Except, of course, if you are a hypocrite — i.e., you make your living as a university professor, a politician, or a book and essay writer (like me)!

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Selling Condos and Jets and Picassos

Selling luxury condominiums and townhouses at Rancho Santana was slowing down because prices were going up. A luxury three-bedroom, three-bath condo that sold for $350,000 10 years ago is selling for more than twice that today. There are still some buyers out there willing to pay $700,000+ for luxury condos, so we may build another group of them next year. But the hot market is for units that cost considerably less.

We realized this about six months ago. And after some research and discussion, decided to sell our three/three units at the price the market wanted. We did it by turning them into three-month timeshares at $250,000.

Of course, you can’t call them timeshares these days. That old phrase has a slightly tarnished reputation. Instead, we’re using the current nomenclature: fractional ownership.

Fractional ownership is a sales strategy that is also being used for expensive assets like boats and planes. And six years ago, I noticed that a company called Masterworks was selling fractional ownerships in a market I would have never imagined: museum-quality art. So, you can’t afford a $10 million Andy Warhol or a $20 million Matisse? No problem. Masterworks will sell you a piece of one of them for 10% or even 5% of the estimated value.

I thought the idea was clever. And I was tempted to try it. But since fractional ownership of art was a new industry, I decided to resist the temptation. To wait and see.

Meanwhile, other fractional ownership companies have entered the fine art market. One that sent me a promotion last week – Freeport – offered shares of works by some artists I love, including a Matisse.

After five years of following this corner of the fine art market, I am pretty sure it is legitimate. (I haven’t heard or seen anything to the contrary.) And since these companies buy mostly pieces by well-established masters, the outlook for future appreciation on one’s shares is very good. (The market for fine art is very much like the market for any collectible. The rarer the piece is, the more valuable it is. Investors that focus on the top tranches do better than those that buy secondary pieces, even if they are done by top masters.) And, in fact, Masterworks’ five-year published track record has been impressive.

So, once again, I find myself tempted. But I went to bed last night wondering why I’m still hesitant. When I awoke this morning, I realized why.

If I invest in one of these works of art – something I would really, really like to own – it would become a de facto line on an impersonal balance sheet, rather than a cherished piece I could look at every day.

In fact, it’s quite possible that after I bought a share of the piece I loved, I’d never see it again. It would likely be stored in some anonymous vault leased by Masterworks or Freeport. Or, worse, end up hanging on a wall of one of their company managers!

Hmm. I have an idea. The way Masterworks and Freeport work is by fractionalizing the ownership of a fine art piece into hundreds of shares. But it might be possible to do the same thing on a smaller scale, like we’re doing with the Rancho Santana timeshares. You organize a limited partnership to buy a million-dollar painting for $80,000 per share… and all of the members get to enjoy it personally for, maybe, one month a year.

What do you think?

Click here to find out more about buying art on a fractional basis.

And click here to see a pitch by our Sales VP on why you should buy a timeshare at Ranch0 Santana.

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The Political Force of Pronouns

I was going to write an essay today about identity politics and gender ideology. It’s a big, interesting subject, with plenty to argue about. But one aspect of it has become a wedge issue politically. I’m talking about the crusade to mandate (either by social force or by legal force) “gender preferred” pronouns.

In case you aren’t familiar with the debate, it has several iterations. Three of the most common are:

* Gender is a social construct. Masculine and feminine are adjectives that describe personal traits that society has invented. They purport to describe the differing tendencies and characteristics of males and females. But in reality, they are traits that either sex can have and exhibit.

* Sex, too, is a social construct. Unlike other mammals, the sex of Homo sapiens is not determined by DNA or the biological results of DNA, such as genitalia. One’s sex is determined by the sex one “identifies as” at any point in time.

* Because both gender and sex are social constructs, gender and sex don’t exist. To put it differently, gender and sex exist only as notions of identity on an ever-changing ideational spectrum that cannot be, and should not be, defined by either law or custom. Doing so, even accidentally, is a form of violence, and should be prohibited by force.

As I’ve mentioned before, I am well aware that there are people that feel like they were born in, or are otherwise living in, a physical body that does not comport to the sex they identify with. Furthermore, I believe that adults who feel that way have a right to change their physical appearance and emotional tendencies by taking hormones and having surgery – measures that require a great deal of bravery. My guess is that having “gender affirming care,” as they call it, is unlikely to improve their mental health. Still, they have every right to give it a go. And when an individual has completed this transformation, I believe it would be mean spirited, when in the presence of such a fully transitioned individual, to refuse to use the pronoun that comports with their renovated (however artificially) body. I don’t think it should be outlawed, but I don’t see why any considerate person should do otherwise.

That said, I do have a problem when the “preferred” pronoun debate gets bizarre and irrational. For example:

* When people who have not transitioned insist on being called what they do not in any way look like.

* Or when, as is the case with Canada, the state mandates that citizens use preferred pronouns under penalty of law.

The problem with these two stances is obvious. It is only by the threat of social or legal punishment that a society can force individuals to say they believe something is true that is obviously false. A big, hairy man with a penis wearing a skirt and lipstick is not a woman. No matter how he dresses or what sort of cosmetic he puts on his face.

What we could call such a person… what we should call such a person is “a man that identifies as a woman.”

That’s it. Nothing more. If he hasn’t done the transition, he is not, by any stretch of logic, a woman. Why, except for mental illness, should he claim to be?

And by the way, what’s wrong with being called “a man that identifies as a woman” when that is what one is? Don’t be embarrassed. Own it. Say it. Be proud of it!

Likewise, how can anyone that is rational agree to call such a man a woman? One can argue that using a non-transitioned person’s preferred pronouns is “a courtesy” and “no big thing.”  But it is a big thing. It’s scientifically and provably false.

To say that to take part in a very dangerous social deceit that cannot be described as anything other than a new religion.

I was going to write more on the preferred pronoun issue, but I’m running out of time. So I’ll just outline my arguments by saying this:

* If you can redefine a word, you can redefine a thought.

* If you can banish a word, you can silence a thought.

* If you can silence a thought, you can silence an idea.

* If you can silence an idea, you can banish an ideology.

* If you can banish an ideology, you can banish rational thinking.

* If you can banish rational thinking, you can create new laws.

* If you can create new laws, you can vanquish your opponents.

* If you can vanquish your opponents and banish rational thinking, you can have a contented, tyrannical state.

* Mandated language is the single most important step on the road to tyranny.

And here are some thoughts on the subject that I’ve gathered from others:

* Pronouns are the gateway drug to a larger ideology. Our kindness and politeness is weaponized.

* Pronouns are a wedge of speech control under the disguise of politeness. It’s a huge, narcissistic burden upon other people.

* When asked for my pronouns, I say “I have no special requests.” And if they push, I tell them “I have no desire to dictate your speech. Use whatever pronouns you want for me, and if they aren’t correct I promise I will not crumble.”

* Pronouns are words that other people use to describe you. To dictate pronouns is to dictate another person’s speech.

* No one ever addresses why a person with gender confusion’s right to coerce speech from other people trumps my right to live in reality. I find it traumatic to be forced into saying things I know are not true. This is significant stress. So why is it not considered cruel and unfair to FORCE me to go along with the pronoun game?

* What I do is first say, “Are you sure it’s okay. I mean, I don’t want to impose.” Given encouragement, I say, “Thank you for the freedom to finally express my inner self. My pronoun is “His Sublime Majesty.”

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