“Experience, contrary to common belief, is mostly imagination.” – Ruth Benedict

 

20 Maxims for Life 

When I first began collecting beer bottles, a friend of mine warned me that the experience of collecting anything is rewarding, seductive, and habitual. Unless I resisted its temptation forcefully, I’d end up with many collections and one day wish I would have kept to just the one.

He was right. Soon after I had lined my office wall with collectible beer bottles, I got into cigar lighters, rare coins, outsider art, vintage cars, fetishist carvings, Asian statuary, modern art, Central American art, and palm trees.

If I had stopped with objets, I might have had more time to actually enjoy them. But somewhere along the way, I began collecting ideas, too. Every day, for example, I find a word, a fact, and a quotation that I like and add each to my idea collection. I’ve accumulated thousands of them so far, with no clue as to what I could do with them.

And then I thought of the perfect thing: Share them with you!

So here’s a sampling of my “idea collection” – 20 of my favorite quotations that have to do with living a rewarding life.

 1.- Lao Tzu on contentment: “When you realize there is nothing lacking, the whole world belongs to you.”

 2.- Socrates on contentment: “He who is not contended with what he has would not be contended with what he doesn’t but would like to have.”

 3.- Louis Nizer on art and craft: “A man that works with his hands and brain is a craftsman. A man that works with his hands, and brain, and heart is an artist.”

 4.- George Orwell on communicating: “If you simplify your English… when you make a stupid remark, its stupidity will be obvious, even to yourself.”

 5.- Frank Lloyd Wright on the heart: “The heart is the chief feature of a functioning mind.”

 6.- Martin Luther King on love and hate: “Darkness cannot drive out darkness; only light can do that. Hate cannot drive out hate; only love can do that.”

 7.- Pearl S. Buck on joy: “Many people lose the small joys in the hope for the big happiness.”

 8.- Leonardo da Vinci on learning: “Learning never exhausts the mind.”

 9.- Zig Ziglar on learning: “If you are not willing to learn, no one can help you. If you are determined to learn, no one can stop you.”

10.- C. S. Spurgeon on anxiety: “Anxiety does not empty tomorrow of its sorrows, but only empties today of its strength.”

11.- The Bhagavad Gita on entitlement: “You are only entitled to the action, not its fruits.”

12.- Epicurus on wealth: “Self-sufficiency is the greatest form of wealth.”

13.- Ben Franklin on education: “The only thing more expensive than education is ignorance.”

14.- Brendan Behan on critics: “Critics are like eunuchs in a harem. They’re there every night, they see it done every night, they see how it should be done every night, but they can’t do it themselves.”

15.- Charles Darwin on ignorance: “Ignorance more often begets confidence than knowledge does.”

16.- Saul Bellow on ignorance: “A great deal of intelligence can be invested in ignorance when the need for illusion is great.”

17.- George Washington Carver on a purposeful life: “No individual has any right to come into the world and go out of it without leaving behind him distinct and legitimate reasons for having passed through it.”

18.- Bertrand Russell on manners: “The essence of good manners consists in making it clear that one has no wish to hurt.”

19.- Alan Simpson on integrity: “If you have integrity, nothing else matters. If you don’t have integrity, nothing else matters.”

20.- James Clear on making decisions: “If a decision is reversible, the biggest risk is moving too slow. If a decision is irreversible, the biggest risk is moving too fast.”

 

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The Fake Problem of Imposture Syndrome 

Here’s the thing about imposture syndrome. It’s not worth talking about.

I just watched a TED Talk in which Elizabeth Cox posits that the way to relieve imposture syndrome is to talk about it. Talk to your peers. Talk to your boss. Talk to anyone that will listen to your precious problem: “I’ve accomplished so much, but I feel like a fraud.”

Cox says that no amount of success will rid you of this sort of self-doubt. Maya Angelou had it. So did Albert Einstein. If they felt that they were faking it, there is no height you can climb to that will eliminate it.

I can’t argue with that. But it’s a bogus issue. A made-up malady to justify yet another idiotic social science program and millions of dollars in wasted studies.

I have two reasons for saying that.

First, you can easily overcome self-doubts by characterizing them honestly. Einstein felt that he didn’t deserve the accolades he received, that his accomplishments were based on the work of others that he pilfered. And Angelou felt that she might not be the greatest American poet of the century, which is what so many fawning critics called her.

Guess what? They were both right. Einstein was, indeed, a thief of good ideas. And there were (and are) dozens of American poets better than Angelou.

And second, the imposture syndrome is a silly exercise in narcissism – in the vain idea that one can be the best.

The way to get rid of it is to accept the fact that however good you are, there are always several that are equally good but not as lucky-to-be-in-the-limelight as you. And there is always at least one that is better.

The worst thing you can do when you have imposture syndrome is talk about it. You may fool yourself into thinking that your interlocutor will feel sympathy for you, but all he or she is doing is thinking, “What is this jackass humbly bragging about?”

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fawn (verb) 

To fawn (FAWN) is to display exaggerated flattery or affection, typically in order to gain favor or advantage. As I used it today: “[Maya] Angelou felt that she might not be the greatest American poet of the century, which is what so many fawning critics called her.”

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