He: Understanding Masculine Psychology 

By Robert A. Johnson

83 pages

First published Jan. 1, 1974

It was sitting inconspicuously on the built-in bookcase behind the headboard, along with several hundred other books I brought to Villa Santana about 15 years ago, hoping to one day find the time to read them.

It looked to be about 80 pages. (More of a longish essay than a book.) The yellowed paper gave its age away. Nearly 50 years old.

I was ambivalent about the title: He: Understanding Masculine Psychology. I remembered the name of the author, Robert A. Johnson. But only vaguely. Wasn’t he one of those spiritual hippie writers that were so popular among university students in the 1980s?

On the back cover, there was a blurb summarizing the book’s thesis:

“What does it really mean to be a man? What are some of the landmarks along the road to mature masculinity? And what of the feminine components of a man’s personality? Women have developed, over the centuries, considerable expertise in the technique of adapting to men, and for good reason, but that is not the same as truly understanding them. The transition from male childhood to real manhood is a complicated struggle….”

Beneath that was a paragraph about Robert A. Johnson: A “noted lecturer and Jungian analyst in private practice in San Diego, CA”… “studied Jungian Psychology at the Jung Institute in Switzerland and at the Sri Aurobindo Ashram in India”… “also the author of She: Understanding Feminine Psychology and We: Understanding the Psychology of the Romantic Love.”

It was only 80 pages. And my relationship with the idea of masculinity has been a recurring area of interest in my life. So, I decided to give it a try.

One of my favorite sayings is, “When the student is ready, the teacher appears.” I take it to mean that there are many ideas we encounter growing up that we can’t understand until much later. I always thought it was a quote from Lao Tzu, a must-read (or pretend-to-have-read) ancient Chinese philosopher when I was in college. But I looked it up. Nope. It was not Lao Tzu.

Actually, nobody knows where the maxim came from. But whoever said it was speaking to me. I’ve had that experience of learning something important that I’d read or heard before but ignored at least a hundred times. And I’ve been told by at least a hundred people that something I said or wrote had that effect on them.

He is a book that I feel like I needed to read right about this time in my life. It is a serious book about male psychology – about how boys are made and how easy it is for them to turn out badly. But also how, if they act in accordance with their nature, they can achieve a satisfying equilibrium with nature and an equally satisfying level of wisdom as they age.

What I Liked About It 

For such a short treatise, Johnson presents a surprising number of fascinating ideas.

He provides a readable, concise, and convincing analysis of the symbolism in the legend of King Arthur and the Holy Grail. He also offers his own take on how the King Arthur/ Holy Grail mythology highlights important facts about what, at the core, it means to be a boy and a man. And he provides an intriguing introduction to the psychological insights and theories of Carl Jung.

Jung is, or was, considered one of the most important psychological philosophers of the 20th century. Equal to Freud. Yet today, he’s almost forgotten. In He, we get a succinct explanation of Jungian psychology and the Jungian conception of masculinity.

I Was Ready for This Book 

In those brief 80 pages, Johnson helped me realize that, at age 72, when I should be well into my wise and settled years, I’m still stuck at a threshold that I should have passed through many years ago. I still haven’t made the transition from the restless, striving, never-satisfied middle years of manhood to the level of maturity that will only come when I stop trying to be so much of a man.

It took me a just a few hours to read He, but it had a strong impact on my thinking about myself.

I recommend it (to both men and women) without hesitation.

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The August 23 Debate: Two Perspectives

I didn’t get to watch the debate, but I watched several dozen clips and a half-dozen retrospective reviews. This one from The Dispatch highlighted something that so many people on both sides of the aisle don’t want to accept:

On Trump’s Indictments, There Was No Debate 

“When the Fox News broadcast returned from commercial, co-anchor Bret Baier asked for a show of hands: Who onstage would still support Trump as the GOP nominee if he is convicted of a crime? All the candidates, save former Govs. Chris Christie and Asa Hutchinson, raised their hands.

“Most, when given the opportunity to explain themselves, went after the ‘weaponization’ of the Justice Department and ‘political’ prosecutions. None of the remaining candidates made any arguments that the charges against Trump in any of the four jurisdictions where he’s been indicted disqualify the former president, and Vivek Ramaswamy even challenged his rivals to follow his lead and commit to pardoning Trump if elected president. (Mike Pence was not amused.)

“It was a remarkable collective decision by the field not to use the frontrunner’s chief vulnerability against him. It reflects the broad conventional wisdom, which GOP strategists working for these campaigns espouse, that loyalty to Trump is itself a litmus test for primary voters.”

You can read the full review here.

And for another perspective, there’s this from Olivia Reingold in The Free Press.

I think both pieces made good points. But the elephant in the room – the fact that none of Trump’s adversaries (Republicans and Democrats) don’ t want to acknowledge – is that the indictments haven’t worked as planned. If anything, they have expanded Trump’s lead, and nobody knows what to do about that.

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David Foster Wallace’s Legendary Commencement Speech 

LC sent this in. “Forgive me if this 23-minute recording is repetitive,” he wrote. “Perhaps you’ve posted about it before. I find it poignant.”

David Foster Wallace was a uniquely smart and inventive writer. Some of his novels are considered to be must reading for anyone seriously interested in contemporary fiction. He eventually killed himself. And that is a topic we could talk about for hours. But he was also practical and poetic, as you can see from this relatively short commencement address.

Click here.

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Quick Bites: Big Cities Lose Big, New Booze Guidelines, Recycled Playground Animals, Digital Clones, and a Quiz About the Stock Market 

  1. Big Blue cities lose trillions as major firms move south. Click here.
  2. Biden’s alcohol czar warns Americans could soon be told to limit themselves to just two drinks per week. Click here.
  3. I’m not a fan of Mayor Adams. And for all I know, he had nothing to do with this. But I was happy to see that the city found a way to recycle worn-out playground animals. Click here.
  4. A Japanese company is developing digital doubles – i.e., personalized digital clones. Click here.
  5. Try your hand at this stock market quiz from Quiz Daily. I got 18 out of 20. Not great for someone who’s been involved in investment publishing for 30 years. Click here.
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Re John Herring’s piece in the Aug. 22 issue: 

“Thank you for the awesome letter about storage units as rental property. I love learning about investing in real estate from you.” – KF

“I agree with your friend about contractor warehousing… Recently, I’ve found myself interested in RV parks. Good locations, short stay, eco-friendly, low maintenance. From what I’ve heard so far, they do very well…” – BW

 

My Response: Yes. I’ve heard the same thing. Because of low operational costs, steady rental income, and the fact that the owner can rent out some units as a less expensive alternative to nearby hotels, they seem like a low-risk bet. And I like low-risk propositions.

Here are 10 reasons why RV parks can be a good investment:

And here’s a short video on the pros and cons.

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The Astounding Diversity of Ocean Life 

I’ve always been amazed by the wide range of brilliant colors that birds were blessed with. I’m equally amazed by the diversity I see in these stunning photos of ocean life. Click here.

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